Just my thoughts and opinions, I hope you will share yours with me as well!
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Wednesday, September 1, 2010
I've been hacked...
Thank you.
Ms. Shaun
Thursday, June 3, 2010
Six Steps Evening Care
Thursday, May 27, 2010
This is what 100 years old should look like!
Ladies, if we are going to model someone she is definitely a good woman to follow.
The email I received read:
This past weekend I had the pleasure and honor of being the Mistress of Ceremonies to celebrate the 100th birthday of Vorese Fisher. This awesome woman of God is the only remaining family member and aunt of my dear friend Tracy Kennedy. She is affectionately known to many of us as "Aunt Vo." Tracy had a photo shoot for Aunt Vo a few days before her 100th Birthday. Oh yes, she is 100 years young!
Aunt Vo gets her rest. She loves the Perry Mason TV show. She cooks delicious homemade rolls. She is still mobile and enjoying riding her stationery exercise bike to stay healthy. This woman of tremendous poise, grace, beauty and still in her "right mind" is the first centenarian that I have personally known and grew to love, admire and respect. I asked Aunt Vo what was her secret to longevity. She said, "Jesus in the morning. Jesus in the afternoon and Jesus at night kept me in peace." Aunt Vo revealed her secret for health is simply moderation. Nothing overdone...nothing overdone. Aunt Vo retired from being in sales at the Bullocks Wilshire store in 1975. She is an avid reader. She learned how to endure the struggles and hardships of being a woman of color and so happy to have lived to received White House birthday greetings from President and Michelle Obama.
Wednesday, May 12, 2010
I'm single because...
Why I’m Single
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> I am single because I have a 6 year old son who soaks up everything like a sponge and I haven’t met too many men who would leave an impression on him I would be proud of.
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> I am single because I have a fabulous job that consumes so much of my time.
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> I am single because I am a “single black female addicted to retail” and when the going gets tough, I spend my money on very expensive jeans or a fabulous new designer hand bag. I spend my own money on my fetishes because I never want to feel like I owe a man anything because he bought me something .
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> I am single because after 3 months of dating, you cut me off with no explanation… only for me to realize, you’ve been engaged to be married the entire time. It’s unfortunate a radio show had to bring the truth out. Wow, thanks for copying on me the non-existent memo.
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> I am single because I can be very stubborn. I refuse to lower my standards because of the shortage of available, straight men.
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> I am single because I have an obsession with swagger and I refuse to date a man who lacks it.
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> I am single because my vision is grand, and my man has to understand that, and be working on his own incredible vision simultaneously.
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> I am single because I am quick witted and extremely driven. I will not date a “slow lane” dude. I’d like my man to drive faster than I do, so that I can be challenged by a new speed and inspired to “keep up”.
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> I am single because I will never allow a man to make me feel like I’m not the shit. Even when my skin isn’t perfect, my waist isn’t the smallest and my booty isn’t the biggest… I’m still the shit.
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> I am single because I have an incredible Daddy who raised me, I understand what a stand up dude is. I expect my man to take care of his children, woman and household just as my Daddy did. There is no excuse.
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> I am single because I work in a male dominated industry and most men can’t handle the fact I’m around other powerful, popular and well-connected men 24/7.
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> I am single because I have more backbone than a lot of men and I don’t always want to be the “driver”. I’d like to ride shotgun every once in a while, as my man takes over. He’ll never have to worry about my ability to drive, when he’s tired, I’ll gladly take over.
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> I am single because I can carry my own weight. Most men have ego’s that need to be stroked, so they seek needy women to make them feel like “men”, looking down upon “independent women”. Fortunately, I’m not looking for a “daddy”, I’ve got one. I’m looking for an “equal” who can help me take over the world.
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> I am single because my male mentors expose me to things most men can’t, like fine dining and traveling to new places some only experience thru the Discovery Channel. I would never expect a man to attempt to keep up with another, but its a state of mind, I need my man to want to expose me to new shit. Teach me something I don’t already know, show me something I haven’t already seen. If you can’t physically or financially do that, be able to do it mentally, it does count.
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> I am single because I have a zero tolerance for ignorance.
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> I am single because the one guy who captured my heart, happens to be a lil busy taking over the world, managing a multi-platinum artist and running a successful record label, timing is everything… and it wasn’t our time. I fell in love with his work ethic, so I could never stand in the way of his grind. I watch from afar in amazement at his growth. Proud of everything he has accomplished and who he has become. I fall back easily, knowing you win some and you lose some… And if you’re lucky, you remain friends for a lifetime, which means… you never really lost.
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> I am single because I expect my man to lead, and quite honestly, the majority of men these days have no idea where they’re going… And I’m supposed to follow you???
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> I am single because I will not sweat or stalk you, regardless of how fine you might be… I’ve got pride and a life.
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> I am single because I choose to keep a good reputation, I will not sleep with you because you drive a flashy car, rock $500 Evisu jeans or have an icy watch and chain to match. Often times, that’s all you’ve got… these 4 things.
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> I am single because I’m attracted to the hip hop culture and sometimes shy away from everything else. I should keep my options open, but I’m addicted to swagger, its not my fault.
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> I am single because sometimes I’d rather sleep then be on the social scene. I wake up at 3:30 am, 5 days a week… You have to be the SHIT to make me sacrifice my R & R.
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> I am single because I’d sometimes rather hang out with my fabulous girlfriends then play the “get to know you” game with some new dude. My girlfriends mean guaranteed laughter and good times, can you guarantee that?
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> I am single because I don’t want to inherit your baby mama drama… My sons father is one of the most unselfish men I’ve ever met. I thank God I don’t have baby daddy drama, why welcome yours?
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> I am single because some men are intimidated by my profession.
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> I am single because I refuse to play the sideline chick. I’m a good girl, if that doesn’t make you want to make me number one, I keep it moving.
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> I am single because I don’t want to meet your kids on the second date, just because you date, doesn’t mean your children do too… I need a man who understands that.
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> I am single because I think male groupies are the lowest form of man. I see the groupie in a lot of men before they see it in themselves. Its disgusting.
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> I am single because I realize some men want to be affiliated with my connections and reap the benefits of my profession. If I were the same chick and working at QT, you wouldn’t be that pressed.
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> I am single because the most important men in my life told me, I deserve the best, and now, that’s what I want.
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> I am single because I will not tolerate being lied too. What an insult to my intelligence.
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> I am single because I have a phobia for the down low. I need a man who digs women… Only!
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> I am single because I walk away at the first sight of a “red flag”. I have an incurable syndrome called “quick-to-cut-a-nigga-off”. Surprisingly, men suffer from psycho behavior too… Funny, I thought that was just a “girl thing”???
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> I am single because I choose to be. When the right man comes along who truly deserves my love, I will not doubt, second guess or conditionally love him. He will have me, and ALL of me. I will hold no punches and always be honest, yet compromising, realizing anything worth having requires hard work. I won’t expect a relationship shortcut, I’ll welcome the long route and enjoy the scenery along the way.
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> Just my thoughts,
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> Nina Brown
After reading the thoughts of Ms. Brown I had to stop and take a look at myself and ask, why am I single? I discovered that, YES, I am single for some of the same reasons as Nina, but I am also single for other reasons, matters of personal preference just like Nina.
In my opinion, we are all single, married, dating, or half in/half out because we want to be. If we wanted to be in a relationship with someone we could be, but we have to position ourselves accordingly first.
Maybe some of us are not in relationships because we still have some work to do!? I have been doing a lot of self reflection (or at least I have been trying to do much more than I have been) and during these times I realize that there is still a lot of work to be done on the inside of me. How do we expect to foster good relationships and get all that we desire if we are crappy on the inside. Not only does it harm our physical body, but it kills our spiritual self...a topic for another BLOG! (LOL) It made me think of the new show with Chili from TLC. Now I am in no way passing judgment or saying that she needs to do some work on herself, even though I believe that learning is a lifelong process and NO ONE is perfect...yet some of the things on her list seem a bit "hard to find" in today's society because we are looking for love, seemingly, in all the wrong places. As women I know that we can be picky people and want what we want, when we want it, but have we thought about how all our demands will mesh when put together in a single person?
I know for me, it seems that over time, I have based my wants in a relationship on lessons of the past, both good and bad. I am sure this has both helped and harmed me on my journey, yet, it has made me stronger. Over time I have grown to accept the fact, that whom ever God has for me is for me, no matter how much of a list I have or how much I "think" I want something different. It is often times the simple difference between acceptance or rejection that makes the difference between being single or together...what do you think?
Peace and Blessings,
*Cocoa Butterfly*
The Front Row of My Life
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Everyone Can't Be In The Front Row... Life is a theater. Invite your audience carefully. Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in your life.
There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. It's amazing what you can accomplish when you let go, or at least minimize your time with draining, negative, incompatible, not-going-anywhere, relationships or friendships.
Thursday, April 22, 2010
Tyranny of the Urgent By Charles E. Hummel
Have you ever wished for a thirty-hour day? Surely this extra time would relieve the tremendous pressure under which we live. Our lives leave a trail of unfinished tasks. Unanswered letters, unvisited friends, unwritten articles, and unread books haunt quiet moments when we stop to evaluate. We desperately need relief. But would a thirty-hour day really solve the problem? Wouldn’t we soon be just as frustrated as we are now with our twenty-four allotment? A mother’s work is never finished, and neither is that of any student, teacher, minister, or anyone else we know. Nor will the passage of time help us catch up. Children grow in number and age to require more of our time. Greater experience in profession and church brings more exacting assignments. So we find ourselves working more and enjoying it less.
Copyright 1967 by Intervarsity Christian Fellowship. Reprinted by permission of InterVarsity Press, Downers Grove, Il 60515
A Discussion of Tyranny of the Urgent
It seems to me that perfection of means and confusion of goals seem to characterize our age.
-Albert Einstein
The good is often the enemy of the best.
-Unknown
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Thursday, April 8, 2010
Zeitgeist Movie: Religion, 911, Money
Wednesday, March 3, 2010
Love Note- Wilderness Mentality
Shaun
Love Note - Wilderness Mentality
March 3
The Lord our God said to us in Horeb, You have dwelt long enough on this mountain. Turn and take up your journey and go to the hill country of the Amorites. . . . Behold, I have set the land before you; go in and take possession of the land which the Lord swore to your fathers, to Abraham, to Isaac, and to Jacob, to give to them and to their descendants after them.
- Deuteronomy 1:6-8
Those of us who are parents know these words so well: "In a minute. Just a little longer." We call our children to leave their playing and come inside, but they want just a little more time to stay out with their friends. For now, at least, they're content playing and don't want to think about getting cleaned up or eating dinner. It's always, "Just a little longer"-if we let them. And at times, we adults act a little like those children who cry out, "Just a little longer."
I've met miserable people-those who disliked their lives, hated their jobs, or were in intolerable relationships with the wrong kind of people. They knew they were miserable, but they did nothing about it. "Just a little longer." A little longer for what? More pain? More discouragement? More unhappiness?
Those are the people who have what I call the wilderness mentality. I want to explain that. Moses led the people of Israel out of Egypt. If they had obeyed God, stopped their grumbling, and moved straight ahead as God originally told them, they could have made the trip in eleven days. But it took them forty years.
Why did they finally leave? Only because God said, "You have dwelt long enough on this mountain." If God hadn't pushed them into the Promised Land, I wonder how long they would have stayed and longed to cross the Jordan.
They were people in bondage. Although they had seen miracles in Egypt and had praised God at the defeat of the Egyptian armies at the Red Sea, they were still in bondage. The chains were no longer on their bodies, but they had never removed those chains from their minds. That is the wilderness mentally.
For forty years, they grumbled. They had no water, and then God provided it for them. They grumbled about the food. Manna was all right, but they wanted meat of some kind. No matter what the situation, they were still mental prisoners. As they had been in Egypt, so they were in the wilderness. No matter how good things became, they were never good enough.
They had forgotten all the hardships and slavery in Egypt, and every time they were dissatisfied with Moses' leadership they moaned, "Oh, if only we had stayed in Egypt."
They had forgotten how bad things were; they had no vision for how good things could get. When they had the chance to move into the new land, they were afraid. "There are giants in the land," they cried out. They had seen God's deliverance in the past, but they weren't ready for it in the present.
Finally God said, "Okay, it's time to move out." The Bible doesn't tell us about their attitude, but there's no reason to believe it had changed. I can imagine they cried out, "Let's stay just a little longer. Things aren't good here, but we know how to live in the wilderness. We are afraid to leave this place-we have become used to it."
If you don't like your life, but you won't make the effort to change, you may have a wilderness mentality. If your mind stays filled with negative thoughts, they will keep you in bondage.
However, you can do something about it. You don't have to waste any more time. You can say, "I've dwelt long enough at this mountain. Now I'm going into the Promised Land-the land where I'll live in victory and defeat Satan's plans."
Pray this...
Father God, forgive me for having a wilderness mentality. We are already in the Promised Land with a victorious life, through Jesus Christ. Therefore, Lord I come into the obedience of Your word. I receive the Truth knowing that I am blessed. Father, I thank You for blessings me; giving me unmerited favor, and protecting me. Lord, I Love You. Amen.
Ms. Cocoa Butterfly
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Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Proud Momma: 1st Grade Science Fair
Tonight we finished our first science fair project! I'm so glad! *wipes sweat from brow* trust me when I tell you, that as a science teacher, I have a new found appreciation for all the work these projects take. As a parent, I have a new found appreciation for deadlines along the way because tonight we only had to assemble which was enough! (I'm normally 11th hour doing everything...#justbeinghonest (for my tweeps) LOL! And I have a new appreciation for my sister (not that I didn't before)...she is the best aunty in the whole wide world...she hung in there with us the whole project...kudos to you!!!
Anywho, check out the pics...his aunty helped with the decorating, mommy typed and fussed...fussed and typed...but Dae prepared for his oral presentation. Hopefully a snow day will give us another day to practice! All in all, as much as I don't like the experiences of science fair as a mom and son duo...I am totally happy at the outcome! My son's project is the bombdiggity...he wants to watch everything volcano #gofigure...and I was actually on time with something!
#aintGodGOOD!!!
G'nite!
"One Proud Momma"
Ms. Cocoa Butterfly
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