SEX!!!!!
I was listening to the SHMS (Steve Harvey Morning Show >I love that show<) this morning when they were taking comments on the SL23. The letter was sent in by a husband whose wife is having sex with him, but there is no emotion. Now, most of the time these complaints are made by women, but that just goes to show that these things can go both ways! After Shirley and Steve made their comments they let callers make comments and of course there was one comment that stuck with me.... A 28 year old man out of Chicago, made a comment that would ring in my head all morning...he said something to the effect of... "If you make love to her mind first, her body will follow!"
PEOPLE....that thing is so true! Men and women both need to realize that sex is MORE than just an act. I am famous for saying, "there needs to be emotion in it"..."some feelings shown, SOMETHING, make me feel like a woman, like I want to *SET IT OFF* for you!" and people look at me like I am stupid. Now, I know most men would love the idea of I get it, you get it and we done...but how long does that really last. Honestly, NOT LONG!
No matter what people say, most people want some sort of affection when they are having sex, especially when they are married, in a relationship, HELL...even "cut buddies" want some sort of emotion...lol! I have made this statement in conversation on numerous occasions and I always get, "well...what is she doing..." RESPONSE: *WTH are you doing!* Are you making her feel like a woman, are you *making love to her mind first?* NO, you aren't.
Men, How the HELL do you expect women to want to *hang from the celing fan* and you aren't doing shyt to get the mind ready to think that her ass can get up there. Are you sending her flowers, NO! Calling her every now and then just to say you were thinking about her, NO! Are you making her feel like you think she is sexy, (even if she is not your traditional model chick/video hoe) NO! So why do you think she is going to go overboard for you...Karma baby...you get back what you put out and if you aren't putting anything out...How in the ham chaheesy do you expect to get anything back??????
Now to my beautiful couterparts...Women, How the HELL do you expect men to want to *act like the strippers you see at the club* and you aren't on your job! Does he come home to a hot meal in the evening, NO! Are you making him feel like the king of his castle, NO! Do you tell him that he looks good to you, (even if his 6 pack has turned in to a keg) NO! So what do you expect! I hope it is nothing, because that is what you are going to get...
Now, don't get me wrong, I know there are those of us out there, both male and female that do some, if not all, of the things necessary to deserve some *sex of the mind* and our mates still don't give it! Then, you do what you feel is necessary to jump start that program, but the majority of us fall short.
Let's be honest with one another, people always talk about what happened when they first met! Hell when you first met, you were locked and loaded! READY to talk/text/email sex ALL DAMN DAY...now you got to much work to do, your fingers hurt so you can't text, your phone battery is almost dead so you can't call...yeah right! Give me a break!
If you want it, then go get it...and that means if you want/need some *sexual healing* start with the mind! The mind is they key to all things!
Just my thoughts...Let me know what you think!
Thanks in advance for your comments.
